Are You Happy?

My mother was the unhappiest person I ever knew. Life was never good enough for her. Her way of coping with life was to buy more in the hopes that something out there would make her happy. Well, it didn’t work, and it’s sad to say, she left this planet unhappy.

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I know you all have heard or read this before. No one out there; nothing out there can make you happy—not one person, not one thing. If you are married or in a relationship, and you are asking your partner to make you happy, stop it. If you are single and living alone, and think that by being in a relationship you will be happy, then you are wrong. Until you are happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with another person.

I know you have heard this before, but I’m here to tell you again, ONLY YOU can make you happy. Happiness comes from within.
The more you complain the worse you feel. I know you have heard the expression, if it feels good, do it. For one day, try to find something positive about any situation you are in that you would normally complain about. Notice how you feel. Now extend that to a week. Feel a little better now? Now a month. Feels good doesn’t? You are the one who is in control of your life. No one else. So how you see things will directly affect how you feel.


You may be thinking right now, “Yes, but, there is so much bad going on in the world, how can I be positive about life?” My answer to you is, “Stop listening to the news.” You don’t need to know what is going on out there to have a productive life. I know, I have haven’t listened to the news, read a newspaper, logged on to news sites in over forty years. I don’t need to know what is going on out there. When I do hear about someone who has gone on a shooting rampage, I say a prayer, and vote for gun control. I pray for peace when I hear about wars.

You are what you surround yourself with. So, if you have friends who are negative, tell them you are taking a break from them, until they have something positive to say.


Are you depressed? Self pity can bring on depression. Try counting your blessings. Start a gratitude journal and promise yourself that in that journal you will write down three things a day that you are grateful for. Those things don’t have to be complicated. Here are three examples of what I’m grateful for:

  • Thank you God that I have a beautiful home that is perfect for me.
  • Thank you God that my cat is loving up on me right now and purring big time even though I can’t see the keyboard on my computer.
  • Thank you God for this beautiful fall day.
Lily loving me while writing my blog
Lily loving me while writing my blog

See the picture? Sometimes being grateful for the little things can make a huge difference. I could sit here and complain about my cat being in the way, but you know what? She’s soft, she loves me, she doesn’t know she’s in my way, and there is something soothing about a cat’s purr.


Life is good if you allow it to be. I’m just sayin’. Give it a chance, and look at rain as liquid sunshine.